Leadership and myself...

I had attended a leadership course at Sunway University College on 29 of March and finally, the letter that contains the goals that i had set to change for the past two months have arrived. I was quite shocked when i found that letter because i never thought they will send it to us. Anyway, i brave myself to open up the letter and to my surprise, i found my piece of paper which i had wrote my goals on it inside the letter. When i browsed through what i had set myself to change for the past two months, i found that i did not even close to reaching one of it. How regret i am....haiz... Together with that paper, i also found a set of paper stating all our questions and answers on that day. I can't even remembered whether i had asked any questions on that very day. Never mind, i just read every questions and answers to it. I found that all the answers that referring to each particular questions were very useful and it did help me to understand myself better. Somehow, i read a few questions and answers which i personally think are very useful in upgrading and rebuilding my true self. And here are the questions and answers:

1. Why we always stuck to choose or what to study after SPM?
SPM is the "immigration counter" for all (17/18 years old) Malaysian students. It is the gateway for us to pass through, and WE MUST PASS THIS IMPORTANT GATEWAY. Our future depends on our SPM. For us to move to tertiary education, be it locally or abroad, we need good SPM results. If we do not pass our SPM, we are unable to pursue our further education.
Whatever we want to study in future depends on our SPM results, especially in English and Maths. It is the foundation on which we build our future profession. You must choose a course of study after SPM as you can only at one time study one particular course.

2. What's the pros and cons of being a perfectionist?
Advantages of being a perfectionist:
* highest/excellent quality of work
* always striving to improve
* self motivation (will not cheat on themselves)
* strive for the best, good is not good enough

Disadvantages of being a perfectionist:
* always giving stress and pressure to oneself
* it is always "Never Good Enough" attitude that may push the person to the edge and this is harmful to the person's health
* dare not to take up project or challenges (waiting to be perfect)
* procrastinating
* feeling discourage and loose confident with little mistake they made
* dwelling in the past

Knowing your strengths and weakness as a perfectionist continue to improve in your strength and watch out your weaknesses, strive to hit a balance. Don't put too much pressure and stress on yourself. Have to keep reminding yourself time and time again. The temptation will come to
get all stressed up and procrastinate as a perfectionist.

3. How do i manage my anger with certain friends and members of my society?
It is good that you are aware of your temper. Managing your anger takes a lot of self-control. Just tell yourself to stay cool and calm at all times. Remind yourself that when you angry, you will say and do things that you will regret later. Therefore, it is always wise to control one's temper.
Always remind yourself to stay cool, calm and collected at all times.

4. What is the best way to listen to others?
The best way to listen to others is to really listen with all your heart and pay 100% attention to the person talking. This means you do not just sms or take any calls, look straight at the person and do not get distracted by any external movements or noises.
Practice active listening i.e. your body language, facial expressions and feelings must be "in tune" with the person speaking.

5. How want to respect others?
In leadership... respect is to be earned. In our Asian culture, respect is given to all our leaders and people in authority. Who is not earning your respect? Do talk to a person whom you respect on the specifies of this question and then think how you would respond.

6. How to earn respect?
If you want people to respect you, you must be more competent (capable) than them. You must also be credible and consistent. The way to achieve those qualities is to make sure that what you say, what you do and what you say will do match with your action. Be true to yourself and
others. If you do that, the people who work with you will know they can depend on you. Leadership by example - say what you do and do what you say. Work harder than the rest.

7. What if I'm sensitive about what people say about me?
Be who you want to be not what others people want you to be. You have to learn to be professional and not personal. Do not let other people's judgement of you determines how you are going to behave. Do not let other people's comments affect your feelings. Rise above it move on. Be a leader.

8. How to control anger?
Always remember that if you say and do things when you are angry - you will regret it later! Therefore, when you are angry - never, never lose your temper! Always stay cool and calm. Count slowly one to ten before you respond.

9. How do i make myself better? As in lesson the burden that i go through everyday.
Always have an open mind to learn from others. Read more. Whenever you have the chance to attend a workshop - Go! Do ask for feedbacks from people that you respect. Be able to accept your weaknesses and do something about it.
Reflect on everything that you do and say everyday. Self-reflection is good for your soul - you take stock of yourself everyday and improve everyday.

That's all from me...i do hope that i can learn something from these questions and answers and strive to change myself towards a better me.

IT IS TIME TO CHANGE!